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A Tribute to Feminism

The effects of feminism are far reaching and stretch from the gender relations that is the core of the family unit to the society at large in which we screech at each other live. High divorce rates, an overpopulated workforce with a disproportionate amount of children placed in indoctrination centers preschool, exhausted women trying to do everything and be both male and female, beat-down men, gender bending confusion that is likened to a civil rights issue, and a divided country.

Do women need to get out of politics?

Men predicted a hundred years ago (correctly) that women are too emotional for politics. And while progressive women have freed themselves from the burdensome yoke of the male-female relationship, they have been set adrift in the political landscape where they screech at everyone like threatened birds. They have run any strong male influence out of their lives and, as a result, are confused, scared, and unprotected.

Breaking the biology of the male-female relationship isn’t just destructive to the family, it is harmful to the woman who is seeking independence. In reality, there is no such thing as independence—we all have freedom to make choices, but we are interdependent on one another and our society. No amount of regulation will make this otherwise.

As liberal women close themselves off from family and relationships in an attempt to find the autonomy they incorrectly believe men to have, they require the government to act as their man. Saudi Arabian women just received the freedom to drive but must have a man present in the car at all time. American women have the government involved in every aspect of their life. And they still want more: to protect them, to keep them safe… Isn’t this what a man is for?

I am so glad that I broke this militarized indoctrination. I lived in this hell and chaos for most of my life. It is time to save our sisters and daughters and, in so doing, our society.

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The Missing Link to Manifesting

This is a technique—if you can call it that—that I have employed with great success that fixed my missing link to manifesting. I actually didn’t do it for the manifestation aspect; I did it because I was called to do so and discovered that a by-product of this amazing power is amazing manifestations. I believe it is because the act connects us with our destiny which ignites the real power behind the Law of Attraction.

What am I talking about?? Watch the video below and find out!

Without revealing my secret from the video, I can share an amazing manifestation of late that not only answered prayers but pointed me in the direction of my destiny with such force I could not ignore.

I had cleaned out my house and closet last year when the phenomenal The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up by Marie Kondo came out. I did as suggested and only kept what I absolutely loved. I didn’t like any of my clothes. Why did I own so much black? And drab? And boring?? My closet was absolutely bare as a result. I trusted that the vacuum created would be filled quickly and I looked forward to my new wardrobe. I had no idea how it was going to happen—I wasn’t going to go shopping for it, that’s for sure—but I knew it would happen.

Cut to months later, several seasons had come and gone and I was wondering where my new wardrobe went. Did it get lost in the Manifesting Mail?? I mean, really! I only had a couple of outfits with which I was making do… I resigned myself that I was going to have to do what I hated most: go shopping. Not just for an outfit or two but for a whole new wardrobe (groan).

No, a quiet voice inside assured me, Your wardrobe is coming.

Shortly after, a neighbor knocked on my door. They were cleaning out their house and had a bunch of clothes. Did I want them? They were mostly their teenage and young adult sons’ clothes, but if I needed t-shirts for rags… Yes! I exclaimed. I needed rags badly. I had a bunch of the microtouch… I don’t know what they’re called but I absolutely hate them and I have been trying to manifest some decent cotton rags for awhile.

I went and helped him bring the clothes back to our house and it was bags and bags and bags. I suddenly had a plethora of rags and a bunch of cool tees that fit. Funny stuff like The Many Expressions of Darth Vader where Darth Vader looks the same in all of them. They fit me surprisingly well and I wondered aloud if I shouldn’t be shopping in the boys section. I decided to do some alterations so that they would fit like snug tees when my other neighbor told me she was so overwhelmed with all of her stuff and she was trying to give away her bags and bags and bags of clothes to a non-profit that refused to come get them.

Do you want them?

Yes!

Forget the tees! My other neighbor is a clotheshorse it seems with the happiest and brightest wardrobe I have ever seen! Talk about manifesting.

I now have a clothes problem. Apparently, I have inherited my neighbor’s clothes horse problem (to my delight), but here is the strange part, my message from the universe: I am overrun with tops. A couple of pairs of pants here and there… This wardrobe would be perfect for someone who did video a lot… For someone who does video a lot??

I had started making videos a while ago. I mean, I have two film degrees and at some point I decided I ought to work in the format. I lamented my lack of tops when I started because it became quickly apparent that I would wear the same (drab) tops over and over again. Gee, I thought to myself, Wouldn’t it be nice to be overrun with tops…

I don’t know if it was my lack of wardrobe or something else (like a baby) that got me off track, but I suddenly heard God as if he was yelling in my ear.

Okay, okay! Message received!

Apparently, my missing link wants me on video. I have devoted a significant amount of my life to the study of the art form. I guess it is time to get started in earnest.

Here ya go!

Till next time,

Hearts and Stars.
Tifany

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Wearing My Aromatherapy

I am wearing my aromatherapy.

Not like I am wearing my heart on my sleeve and telling everyone about my new obsession with diffusing essential oils—even though I am doing that—no, I am literally wearing my essential oil around my neck. On a diffuser necklace.

You didn’t know this existed? Me neither!

At least, diffuser jewelry was not on my radar at all until some pretty miraculous stuff started happening here around the house in my health and home: Did I tell you I have been managing stress with wild orange essential oil? Well, I have. Did I tell you that I knocked a killer migraine out with peppermint essential oil? Unbelievable. But true!

I have always been the natural mama, even before I was a mama, I always chose the homeopathic option, but essential oils? Hmmm. Until I tried it. Now I am proselytizing people I meet in the street. I don’t know them. But I am telling them about essential oils. If I wasn’t so relaxed, I would be frightened. I mean, once you figure out that you can support wellness naturally, don’t you go scream it from the rooftops? Well, I do.

But now I don’t have to scream because people are asking me now:

What perfume are you wearing?

My aromatherapy lasts for hours so I feel like I am walking through paradise. Things that used to stress me out are just…life.

A mess the size of the Exxon oil spill in my kitchen? Don’t worry about it.

Our schedule just got pushed back by an hour? I’ll manage!

The baby didn’t nap? She’ll sleep next time!! In the meantime, what is the smell of the day, baby — wild orange? Or jasmine?

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Old school social media

free printable thank you notes

Antique Tiny Notes and Envelopes

From Glenda’s World, this darling free printable thank you notes set will inspire you to reach out to your loved ones. I have found that the key to happiness lies in the strength of our social bonds. You don’t have to spend a lot of money to keep in touch.

To download this set of 4 different notes, click here. Scroll to the bottom and hit the Download button. No sign up required though I know she would love a comment! 🙂

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7 Power Questions

Tony Robbins Journal Prompts

Tony Robbins is my guru lately. I am fascinated with harnessing emotions to focus energy and change your life. The subject took hold of my head after I managed to change my world by changing my perspective on what was happening, literally I just changed how I felt and everything changed. I began asking myself empowering questions that built me up instead of dragging me down. The topic is also Robbins’ obsession and he has done A LOT of study on the subject—his entire career.

Use his Power Questions to start your day off and ignite your passion and purpose.

  1. What am I happy about in my life now? What about that makes me happy? How does that make me feel? If you’re not so happy right now, then what *could* make you happy?  How would that make you feel?
  2. What am I excited about in my life now? What about that makes me excited? How does that make me feel? If you’re not so excited about anything in your life right now, what *could* make you excited?  How would that make you feel?
  3. What am I proud about in my life now? What about that makes me proud? How does that make me feel? If you’re not so proud about anything in your life right now, what *could* make you proud?  How would that make you feel?
  4. What am I grateful about in my life now? What about that makes me grateful? How does that make me feel? If you’re not so grateful about anything in your life right now, what *could* make you grateful? How would that make you feel?
  5. What am I enjoying in my life right now? What about that do I enjoy? How does that make me feel? If you’re not enjoying anything in your life right now, what *could* you enjoy?  How would that make you feel?
  6. What am I committed to in my life right now? What about that makes me committed? How does that make me feel? If you’re not so committed to anything in your life right now, what *could* you be committed to? How would that make you feel?
  7. Who do I love? Who loves me?

Starting off your day by focusing on positives invigorates and channels your energy. Similarly, end your day with power.

The Evening Power Questions:

  1. What have I been given today? In what ways have I been a giver?
  2. What did I learn today?
  3. How has today added to the quality of my life or how can I use today as an investment in my future?
  4. Repeat the Morning Questions (optional).

from Awaken the Giant Within.

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Peppermint vs. the Migraine

Click here for Part I: Wild Orange and the Anxiety Experimentpeppermint essential oil and migraines

I am a week into my Anxiety Experiment. My results have been very interesting. Following is my log.

Day 1:

Hyper-aware of how I feel in preparation of running the stress experiment. I find myself asking over and over, Am I stressed yet? The baby cries, I decide that is enough stress to start the experiment. I warm a couple of drops of Wild Orange essential oil in the palms of my hands by rubbing them together and then inhale deeply for half a minute.

Aaah.

I rub the excess on the back of my neck and feel a slight tingling sensation. What is that? I knew that peppermint cooled the skin with a refreshing tingle…but Wild Orange? Hmm.

The baby cries again. Am I stressed? I better administer some Wild Orange, just in case. Hubs remarks of the smell when he walks through. With his myriad respiratory issues I brace for his protestation but there is none, he is only noting the aroma. If synthetic chemicals in anyway wafted up to his nose— perfume, nail polish and remover — he would flee the room and brace for an asthma attack. So far, so good.

Dinnertime approaches and the smell of Wild Oranges has faded to a whisper. I go to put on my dosage and the baby cries. I think to myself, Just in time. She wants to be held. As usual, she needs cuddling at the very moment when holding her would be impossible if I wanted to still get dinner on the table in time for bath and bedtime. I wish the baby sling would fit on the back instead of the front — I could cook dinner and carry her around like a backpack. I haven’t used the thing since she was a baby.

I try it anyways—I put the baby in the sling on my back knowing that it won’t work, but it works!! Why didn’t I try this before?

Usually, the toddler and I would have acted at cross purposes for the entire making of dinner. A willingness to try something new seems very different from my normal routine of tense up and stress out. I wonder if the wild orange applications from earlier have relaxed me so that I am calmer and more free to think clearly rather than get upset and stay in reaction mode.

With the baby in the sling, I administer my dose of wild orange — just in case — and cook dinner.

I am not a multi-tasker by nature—the hard deadlines of cooking stress me out. I cook dinner with my usual flubs—forget to start the bacon first, don’t start the wontons on time, completely forget the egg rolls—however I am unconcerned. Instead of the baby crying and tugging on my pant leg, she is swinging on my back, happily watching the events as they pass. When I flub up, instead of muttering under my breath, I feel a tingle on my neck from the Wild Orange oil. I have a narrowed focus on my task and dinner is ready more quickly. Hubs is talking about being 100% ON BOARD WITH THE ESSENTIAL OILS before dinner even hits the table… so, that is a recommendation. I eat dinner in wonder while simultaneously scratching my head why every day isn’t this easy. Bath is a breeze, bedtime and out.

So yesterday I was a dinnertime stressball, and today I am transformed into boss mom. Did I mention my voice dropped 20 decibels as the day progressed?

What is this stuff?

Day 2:

I wake up, grateful that I have discovered my anxiety problem AFTER I figure out how to solve it. I am feeling invincible when the worst case scenario happens as if on cue: MIGRAINE.

Yes, the mother of all headaches and an affliction I have suffered with for the last twenty years. Not only a headache, my migraines are accompanied by pain and tension in my muscles stretching along the right side of my body from my little toe to my jaw where it bursts into flames on the right side of my head.

It hasn’t blown up yet, but my body is displaying all of the symptoms and I know that the Wild Orange is not going to be enough for this. I do some research on the other little sample bottle of essential oil that I have been provided for the study: Peppermint Essential Oil. Hallelujah—it treats headaches and migraines. Not just headaches, but headaches AND migraines. I look at my little bottle and wonder if I have enough. I am skeptical. Even the heavy duty drugs from the MD barely touch my pain. A $75 pill gives me 4 hours of relief and then it comes back and rolls over me like a freight train. I gave up taking medication early on when I realized this and that a lifetime of imitrex or whatever else the snake oil salesmen were peddling the doctors were prescribing would kill my liver thirty years too early.

I rub the Peppermint Essential Oil together in my hands, warming it up, and inhale for 30 seconds. The natural menthol of the peppermint potently opens up my sinuses and passageways. I rub the cooling oil on my neck and the tingling also slightly numbs the area. My neck relaxes noticeably — the place where all of the pain in my body and head meet — and I continue to apply throughout the day (maybe 3 times total?) and watch in disbelief as my migraine fades away. I still feel the tension throughout my normal tension spots and I wish I have enough of the stuff to bathe in it. What would happen if I put it on my sore shoulder? Or the tight hamstring? My sore toe?

Now the question arises, after two rather miraculous days with the stuff:

Why haven’t I tried this before??

Me—the person who doesn’t believe in medical solutions for daily problems while I watch everyone around me get on the essential oil bandwagon and poo poo their results?

A friend’s husband stops a gout attack where his medications only diffuse it. Everywhere, people are sleeping where there was only insomnia before. My own pediatrician recommends it and yet I think it can’t be powerful enough to touch the pharmaceutical stuff?? But I don’t even believe in the pharmaceutical stuff!!

Day 3:

Wasps have started building a nest in my daughter’s playhouse. Hubs suggests a cotton ball with a couple drops of peppermint oil and they scatter and haven’t been back since.

Day 4:

I make a natural hair serum out of castor oil and essential oils that tames my frizz. I have paid so much money for the same over the counter stuff that has never worked. Have we as a society been hoodwinked? How perniciously tied together is the medical-industrial-pharmaceutical-cosmetic industry??

Day 5:

I wonder if this is the stuff of magical spells and why witches were burned at the stake. Making Aromatic Clay necklaces for essential oil scented jewelry and to ward off evil spirits.

Day 6:

Ordering a boatload of peppermint and wild orange. And bergamot. And lemon, jasmine, ylang ylang. I can’t forget about Frankincense. Why don’t I just order the whole kit?

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Green Household Cleaners

diy green cleaning productsThe Journey to Green Cleaning

Until I embraced my mission on earth to live naturally, I just didn’t clean.

I am not crazy about admitting this, but I bet I am healthier than my counterparts who did and burned their noses and lungs and poisoned their bodies by inhaling toxic fumes.

The quickest way into the body is through our nasal passages. Let me give you an example: oxygen.

Remember when uninformed housewives were unintentionally killing themselves by mixing bleach and ammonia? The deadly combo creates Mustard Gas—a poison used effectively in World War II.

Yikes.

No, instead of cleaning, I sat around and sulked while looking at the mess and feeling sorry for myself: I could have a clean house and kill myself with toxic chemicals or I can live in a dirty house. For some reason, I didn’t think there was an alternative to dirt or deathly fumes. Duh! What about all of the natural cleaning products you can make from natural products around your home?

It turns out that, while I was onto the truth and was smart enough to protect myself, I had to break the brainwashing by our consumerist culture that says that mass produced products cornered the market on clean.

They don’t!

Do you want a clean home but can’t stand the harshness of store-bought cleaners? Natural Mama to the rescue!

I clean using green cleaning products created from natural ingredients found around my home: borax, baking soda, vinegar, liquid soap. I add citrus essential oils like lemon, wild orange, and grapefruit for an invigorating smell that is better than the synthetic febreeze. The citrus family essential oils are natural cleansing agents and are naturally astringent and antiseptic. My home smells wonderfully clean without the synthetic and overpowering smell of toxic cleaners.

DIY Green Household Cleaners

“All-natural bathroom cleaners are available at stores, but they can be difficult to find. It is possible to create natural bathroom cleaner using non-toxic household ingredients. Use these steps for various homemade bathroom cleaner recipes:

Make a basin, tub and tile cleaner.

  • Pour 1 and a half cups (192g) of baking soda into a spray bottle.
  • Add a half cup (118.3mL) of liquid soap, a half cup (118.3mL) of water and 2 tbsp (29.6mL) of white vinegar.
  • Close the top of the bottle and shake vigorously to mix the ingredients.
  • Spray the area to be cleaned and scrub with a towel or sponge.

Remove mildew.

  • Pour a half cup (113.4g) of Borax and a half cup (118.3mL) of white vinegar into a shallow bowl.
  • Stir the mixture until it makes a thick paste.
  • Apply the recipe onto mold or mildew with a cleaning brush and scrub. Allow the paste to sit on the mildew for 1 hour before rinsing it off.

Sanitize the floor.

  • Fill a bucket with at least 2 gallons (7.57L) of very hot water and a half cup (113.4g) of Borax.
  • Wipe the floor with a mop soaked in the mixture. Do not rinse the floor with water; allow the Borax mixture to set.

Create drain cleaner.

  • Put a half cup (64g) of baking soda into the drain. Follow that by pouring 1 cup (236.6mL) of white vinegar down the drain.
  • Wait for a reaction between the 2 components. The vinegar will cause the baking soda to fizz.
  • Allow it to fizz for at least 15 minutes, and then pour a saucepan of boiling water down the drain.
  • Repeat this process more than once if the drain is still clogged or emits an odor.

Produce scouring powder.

  • Mix 1 cup (128g) of baking soda, 1 cup (128g) of Borax and 1 cup (128g) of salt into a small jar or container.
  • Sprinkle the powder on a specific area to be scoured and scrub with a sponge. Scouring powder is a particularly abrasive cleaning substance that can easily remove grime and residue.

Create toilet bowl cleaner.

  • Pour 1/4 cup (32g) of baking soda into the toilet bowl followed by a 1/4 cup (59mL) of white vinegar.
  • Allow the mixture to sit in the bowl for a half hour before scrubbing with a toilet bowl brush and flushing.

Make glass/window cleaner.

  • Blend 1/4 cup (59mL) of white vinegar with at least 3 cups (710mL) of warm water in a spray bottle.
  • Shake the bottle well and spray the glass or window. Wipe the surface with a dry towel.”

Source: How to Make a Bathroom Cleaner: 7 Steps (with Pictures) – wikiHow

 

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Wild Orange and the Anxiety Experiment

wild orange and anxietyWould you try something with me now?

Pinch the bridge of your nose with one hand and place the other hand on the back of your head. This is the path of a nerve in our head which travels from our nose to the back of the brain where it accesses our emotions (amygdala) and memories (hippocampus). This is the limbic system and it combines higher mental function with our more “primitive” feelings like stress, depression, and anxiety. It is directly connected to our sense of smell and it is why scent can bring up memories so vividly — think chocolate chip cookies at Grandma’s house.

Scent is on my mind this week as I am inundated with the luxurious smells of essential oils. I am participating in an essential oil study this week for stress and anxiety. Every time I feel stressed or anxious, I am to put a drop of Wild Orange essential oil in my palms, rub them together and inhale for 20-30 seconds. Then I rub the excess oil on the back of my neck. I haven’t done it yet because the study just began and I haven’t felt stressed… yet. It won’t take long, I’m sure. I am already planning to administer my dose of essential oil at dinnertime tomorrow because this is my stress-out time for reasons I have yet to figure out. Perhaps I wait too long to eat after I am already hungry. I really have no clue, but I am excited to arm myself with an ally in my wild orange oil.

Will it work?

I have always loved and used essential oils for my handmade body butters and bath products. I luxuriate in the intoxicating smells and studied layering scent to be the master body butter maker that I am. You could definitely call me an addict. When Mom Life came to me and offered a collaboration with Natural Mama to expand the shop with certified pure therapeutic-grade essential oils, I jumped at the chance. But supporting health and wellness through essential oils? I have always been skeptical. It turns out my skepticism was a good thing as I look back through my collection of oils and find many of them not of the highest grade… Thank goodness I wasn’t ingesting and using aromatically.

I recently read a fascinating article in National Geographic about the healing power of faith. Scientists are finding that belief can be a more powerful indicator for healing than anything else. And this fact crosses cultural lines from aboriginal tribes to our modern society.

Do I believe that an essential oil can heal my dinnertime anxiety? I am willing to believe a lot. In fact, I am more ready to believe in alternative methods of healing than anything that modern medicine prescribes. Each decade I hear conflicting information from “authorities” leading me to believe that no one knows what they are talking about. One decade butter was sure to kill you if it so much as touched your lips. The next decade butter was a whole lot better than the butter alternatives that had been on the market for the same decade that saw a concurrent explosion in obesity. Thankfully, I never fall for the hype — thanks to my natural philosophy — and I had been eating butter all along, still trim and healthy.

Meanwhile, kooks spill out of the woodwork with claims of miraculous healing, and, somehow, the kooks make more sense to me – a willingness to go out on a limb seems more believable than the fall in rank and file scientists who aren’t allowed to have any new theories because everything has been discovered. Really?! Isn’t that the point of science? That it is forever evolving? And yet science isn’t very good at curing stress or anxiety, rather the rise of science sees a concurrent rise in overall society anxiety…

And essential oils are kooky, right?

I don’t know. It makes a lot of sense to me. My study of emotion keeps bringing me over and over to the conclusion that our emotional state is integral to the body, mind, spirit connection. I think it is the fourth point in a 3-dimensional triangle. It is in the center—it is a pyramid.

Speaking of the pyramids, did you know that archeologists have uncovered vials of intact essential oils in the Egyptian tombs? Intact. That means that the oils are still alive thousands of years later, kept perfectly maintained in the darkness and sealed environments of the tombs.

What does that mean for our body? We put synthetic chemicals in our body for medication — medication imitating single compounds in the much more complex herbs and plants with hundreds of chemical compounds. Aspirin is fashioned on two compounds of the many compounds in Willow Bark, used for millennia by the Lakota. What is the use of stripping a natural and whole plant whose properties must be numerous for healing to use just two?

Controlling nature? Extending profits? Collusion with the medical industrial complex?

So, yes, I am willing and excited to try my Wild Orange sample for the week and report the results back to you. To answer my earlier question, I don’t know that my body needs anything to heal. I wonder if my mind isn’t the more integral factor in my healing and when I finally figure out exactly what is bugging me at dinnertime, my frustration will evaporate.

I get the power of using smell to access memories — I have experienced this like everyone. I get that the quickest way to put a body under for surgery is through anesthesia. The lungs pull in oxygen and it is delivered straight to our bloodstream. Yes, breath is life.

Will it calm my inevitable irritation at dinnertime? More than food? I just don’t know. We will have to wait until next week, won’t we?

Results forthcoming…Click here for Part II.

~ Tifany